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Spanking can certainly be part of a fun sexual experience, if both partners agree they'd like to try it. This is the key: you must both be comfortable with it. Don't let anyone force you into something you're not interested in. Before you begin, it's best to agree on a “code word” that means, “Stop at once.” Make sure you both know the word, and that your sweetie agrees to stop whatever he's doing immediately if you use that word. That way, you'll feel safe to experiment.
Spanking is part of what's referred to as BDSM, or Bondage-Domination-Sadism-Masochism. This type of sex play is mostly about power and domination/submission, and the thrill such mastery can provide. Be sure you discuss what you'd like to try and what is absolutely out of the question before you begin. Many couples like to take turns tying each other up–hence the “bondage” part of the name.
If you're uneasy about trying this, why not tie your boyfriend and let him go first while you experiment? Then, he can try it on you when you feel ready. Men's ties or silk scarves work well to tie your sweetie's arms and legs together, or to your bedposts.. Be sure to tie a slip knot–you don't want to have to cut through that tie or scarf if the knot tightens. Then, try out different sensations on your lover...spanking or stroking, warm massage oil or an ice cube, vibrators, ostrich feathers, or a cold, dangly chain. Blindfold your partner for extra surprise value. But don't use a gag–your partner has to be able to use the code word if things get too intense. You can dress in a costume and add a sensual dance to up your partner's excitement. Anything–that you both agree on–goes. Have fun!
