A: Toys can be fun as long as you don't see them as a threat or a replacement. This is one thing men find very erotic as long as their partner is willing. What you might want to do first is visit an adult store where the employees are very helpful and knowledgeable.

They can show you a wide variety of toys that come in all shapes and sizes. There you can openly discuss this with your boyfriend as you are looking and touching and that is the fun part. Watch his expressions while you choose the ones you want.

Once you have decided what you both want it's time to go home and try them out. You want to set the mood...candles and dinner for two with a few glasses of wine to calm your nerves. Maybe something sexy to wear after a hot bubble bath together. Let him dry you off.

I usually like to think about it during the day which helps a great deal and gets me in the mood.

By this time you should both be ready. Be open minded and put your trust in him. But most of all relax and have fun.

~The Vixen

Q. My boyfriend wants to use “Toys” on me because he says it turns him on, but I am a bit nervous and embarrassed. How can I feel comfortable with it?
~~J.S., KS