A: If you don't want to engage in a threesome, don't. Your husband should respect that it's not what you want. There's nothing wrong with having the fantasy, but when you're in a marriage where either of you don't want to bring in another partner, even for just a night, the other should respect that. If you do this but don't share the fantasy, you won't respect yourself, and that's worse than your husband disrespecting you. Know that you're worth more than that.

You can't control what your husband does, but don't assume that he'll cheat on you. He may be more committed to you than you think. It's wrong of him to pressure you, and you should tell him it hurts you when he does, but that doesn't mean he'll go to someone else if you won't give him what he wants. Suggest trying other fantasies he has that don't involve other people, and share your own fantasies. Maybe have some fun with adult toys. But don't do anything you don't want to do.

~The Vixen

Q. My husband and I have been married for four years, and he's mentioned his fantasy of a threesome before, but now he's saying he'd really like to try it. I don't want to do it, but I'm worried he'll find someone who will if I don't. What should I do?
~S.R., Yachats, Oregon