Q: Is there a certain amount of lubrication that women produce when aroused? I think I produce what is a normal amount of fluid, enough to notice and lubricate, but sometimes I need to use some bottled lube because it makes things more comfortable with my boyfriend. But he thinks that if I need to use extra lube, it means I'm not excited enough. I don't know how to convince him that it's not a reflection on him. What can I do?
~ PC, Vancouver, BC

A: The amount of lubrication a woman produces is as individual and unique as her face or personality. Not only that, but the amount of lubrication varies throughout a woman's life, depending on many factors. If you're certain lack of desire isn't the problem--as you seem to be--here are some other things to consider. 1) Make sure you've had enough foreplay to allow adequate lubrication to take place. Men, visual creatures that they are, often don't need as much stimulation as women do to be “ready.” :-) Suggest that your honey try oral stimulation on you as part of foreplay. In addition to being fun, it provides additional lubrication from his saliva. 2) If your man is using a condom, that almost always requires additional lubrication. Don't use a petroleum-based product like Vasoline as it can cause deterioration of the condom. Saliva works well if your honey objects to over-the-counter lubricants. 3) Hormonal imbalances, such as those that take place during pregnancy, after childbirth, and during menopause, can reduce the amount of lubrication. Ask your doctor for an estrogen-based vaginal cream to use if necessary. 4) If you continue to have problems, visit with your OB-GYN and ask her to check you for possible medical causes. In the meantime, vaginal lubricants are often available in one-use-size foil packages, so try ‘em all and see which one you like best! Have fun with it.